11 Hot Tips For Lasting Longer in Bedroom
Ever
wanted to achieve more sexual pleasure for you and your partner?
Have
you ever felt like your sexual patterns are preventing you and your lover from
experiencing sex as blissfully as you know it can be?
Does
the prospect of having sex sometimes seem too daunting just because of a
history of unsatisfying experiences?
Changing
your sexual patterns may be a burning issue for you, a passing curiosity or
perhaps you know someone that could benefit from this information. In any
case I am sure you will find the following informative and interesting.
1. Slow
down.
It may
seem obvious, but the number one way to make sex last longer is to do
everything slower.
Breathing,
feeling, foreplay, kissing and intercourse are all parts of the sex act that do
not need to be rushed.
2. Give
everything time.
Every
moment in sex is worth experiencing fully.
Let
things unfold in their own time and you will be rewarded with richer
experiences during sex and more learning and satisfaction from sex.
3.
Deepen your breathing.
Our
breath connects us deeply to our body and its rhythms, as well as the rhythm of
other bodies near us.
Focusing
on breathing also helps to quiet the mind and sooth any internal dialogue that
may be interfering with our natural enjoyment of the sex.
Here's
a hint, try synchronising your deep slow breathing with your partner's.
4. Let
go of expectations.
Without
expectations around sex, we are free to more naturally savour the experience …
however it is!
We can
be more open to the experience and learn more as a result.
Without
expectations we free ourselves from disappointment.
Here's
a trick … see if you can implement these techniques to improve your sex,
without caring whether they work!
5.
Focus on pleasure in sex rather than the sex act or outcome.
Regardless
of certain ideas of sex perpetuated in the world, sex is not about the ending,
it is about the whole experience.
Getting
the girl, having an orgasm, giving an orgasm … these are all important aspects
of sex.
But the
most important element of sex is pleasure!
When
you start enjoying every moment of sex … it will go on as long as you want!
6.
Increase knowledge of your body.
Take
the time to understand what brings you pleasure and learn how to pleasure yourself
better. Don't forget to share your new knowledge with your partner too.
Read up
about anatomy. The human body is amazing!
7.
Increase knowledge of your partner's body.
Don't
be afraid to ask questions and always be open to trying new things in bed.
Explore every part of your partner's body like you have never seen or touched
it before.
Every
time you engage in sex it is a perfect opportunity to expand your sexual
knowledge.
You can
learn a lot about the human body by asking friends about their experiences too.
8.
Reframe sex as a nurturing healing act.
When we
attach shame and guilt to sex it is no wonder that it doesn't flow naturally.
Adjust your mindset around sex to reflect only positive aspects.
Sex
feels so good, how could a gift like this be anything other than healing!
9. Let
go of performance anxiety.
Performance
anxiety is unnecessary. Be kind to yourself. Learn to forgive yourself if
things don't go perfectly, and then learn to stop caring about perfect anyway.
10.
Feel your body from within.
Our
sensual experience can be deepened dramatically by focusing on our experience
from within our body.
Get out
of your head and let your consciousness move to the centre of your body.
11. Be
present.
Don't
let the mind wander or engage in pointless internal chatter. Don't let your
fantasies and thoughts take you further from the experience at hand.
Be in
the present experience and the present moment.
So
there you have it. Any of these tips individually can start to impact on your
sexual performance right now. If you learn them all, you will be a master of
your body in and out of the bedroom.
Don't
be daunted if it takes a little time though … these are life changing
techniques and may take a bit of practice. And most
importantly of course, enjoy yourself practising!!
